Looking for men only meetings online - Sangha / Wisdom / Other

David Edwards, שונה לפני 2 חודשים at 08:56 18/07/24
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Looking for men only meetings online - Sangha / Wisdom / Other

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Hi all.

I'm looking for men only meetings online in any time zones.

I attend a tonne of men only recovery meetings (12-Step, Recovery Dharma, SMART) and will continue most of them, but my view has changed and I believe it would be beneficial to also associate with men in meditation / wisdom / Dharma (non-recovery specific) type meetings.

I'm open to any suggestions.

Thanks!
Martin, שונה לפני 2 חודשים at 12:04 18/07/24
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RE: Looking for men only meetings online - Sangha / Wisdom / Other

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You might try asking Steve James (the Guru Viking guy). He runs men's groups (https://www.thenonlinearmovementmethod.com/product/mens-study-group-2021/) and meditation groups so, if there is such a thing as a men's sanga, he would probably know about it. 
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Chris M, שונה לפני 2 חודשים at 12:57 18/07/24
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What's the value of men-only dharma? Seriously. 
Martin, שונה לפני 2 חודשים at 13:17 18/07/24
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That question occurred to me, and then I thought it was probably the same value as a women-only sangha, especially if there is a lot of personal sharing because, for some topics, it is easier to share with peers, without having to explain or worry about being judged or offending. I personally never went to any restricted groups but they do seem to have value for people who have more difficulty in making themselves vulnerable or who might want to focus on specific issues, such as the third precept. 
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Matt Jon Rousseau, שונה לפני 2 חודשים at 14:30 18/07/24
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If one is in recovery(alcohol , drugs) .Sometimes same sex support can be more beneficial  then mixed support. There just seems to be less drama because of the lack of underlying tension and transference. That could extend to meditative practice.  I suppose.  I don't think it's misogynistic  . Just keeping it simple 
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Chris M, שונה לפני 2 חודשים at 16:10 18/07/24
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Sounds reasonable at first blush, but then it also sounds like not real life, a kind of avoidance. But what do I know?
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Matt Jon Rousseau, שונה לפני 2 חודשים at 17:25 18/07/24
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Skillfull avoidance . I always thought that about Catholic  and orthodox  monasticism .  There is definitely  an avoidance aspect to it. The monks are probably exposed to less stimuli  on a daily basis. That could mean less discursive thought and easier contemplation.  It's not for me and probably  not for most people on a pragmatic path.   HOWEVER  A person in recovery  with strong co- dependant tendencies, it could be usefull in the beginning 
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J W, שונה לפני 2 חודשים at 15:59 19/07/24
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You (unfortunately) won't be hard-pressed to find them! emoticon
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Papa Che Dusko, שונה לפני 2 חודשים at 16:07 19/07/24
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Dildo-only Dhamma?
David Edwards, שונה לפני 2 חודשים at 07:43 20/07/24
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Thanks Martin for the suggestion and link.

Why men-only? I believe for my present situation it is the wisest option. Matt termed it skillfull avoidance. Being mindful of setting up conditions. Perhaps just for now, not saying it's forever.

I appreciate the input.

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